The time you spend with people can really pay off if you know what you’re doing. You can achieve new levels of bonding that encounter levels of familiarity and unfamiliarity. The philosophy is patient and uncertain, like waiting for something unexpected to happen.
My friend and I decided to sleep together after four months of being together. It was a little rough to say the least. There was all kinds of tension moving in and out of my mind. My mind kept drifting. I couldn’t really even tell what was going on most of the time. She kept playing games with me.
It started with a simple text message. Our friendship sparked immediately. We hit it off great. I think we must have run into some drama though. Because after the first couple of dates, things started to feel really tense.
In fact, the tension started pretty early. Maybe she was just a tense person. Kind of nervous about things. But I could tell she really liked me. She kept coming onto parts of my personality that I felt like really shined.
Even through the tension we experienced, we kept going strong for a couple of months. We’d talk all the time about even the most personal things. Things were great together. We shared such good bonding over moments where things would get very personal.
Nothing ever really got weird even. We just didn’t sleep together at all. It was like an unspoken bond of friendship that we had where we would talk all the time about things, even get romantic, but there was no touching.
I thought it was classy. She had a lot of stuff happening in her demeanor, and I could tell she was really into me, but she’d never let that get the best of her. I appreciated her self-control and ability to hold it together even when things were getting over our heads.
Then, one day, after a lot of deliberation, things changed. She started talking extra romantic one day, and I totally lost it. I gave into my desires and started talking extra sexy. I think she must’ve liked it, because she returned the favor and gave into her desires too.
We slept together that day. We broke the bond that we had established over the course of months. It felt kind of weird to do it. I felt like I was doing something wrong, but at the same time doing something so right. It was a mess of confusion and passions that would be hard to replicate. We had made something so special by trying out something new.
Things get really deep when you start getting involved in your passions. The deviance from the essentials to something more opinionated, the decision to have sex. It’s a type of connection where things have a specific type of mentality. It’s greed, lust, and desire.
A lot of people over the course of their relationships have made the decision to have sex. It offers a break from the norm, and gives people the opportunity to learn more about what’s going on inside of your partner. It’s a type of romance, a type of love. Something where you can feel more than you could before, and see more than you could see before.
People will idealize romance to a certain point. There’s also a lot of social pressure to do it. I don’t know where the pressure to have sex with my friend was this time. I didn’t really notice it ever, but I felt like it was something that was always on our minds. It just never really came up for a long time.
I think the moral of this story is that patience is a virtue. Sometimes, the longer you wait to do something, the better it gets. Like aging wine. It’s not a total waste of time to take a moment and make sure you’re making the right decision.
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